Proverbs 17:17 - What Is A Friend?

Proverbs 17:17 (KJV) A friend loveth at all 
times, and a brother is born for adversity. 

Proverbs 17:17 (CWR) A real friend loves you 
no matter what happens.  What are brothers for 
if they cant stick together in hard times? 


   Last night, I dreamed about a close 
friend I knew as a teenager, someone I haven't seen 
for decades. For many years, we lost touch with 
each other, but both of us kept searching. At 
last, we made contact through social media. I had 
my dear companion back! 
   We live thousands of miles apart. The 
chances of us meeting again are very low, but we 
both daydream about it. Yet if I have to wait 
until heaven for one of her hugs, I can. It'll be 
worth it. For now, I'm happy with our steady 
interactions, both online and during phone conversations. 
   I occasionally attended church as a 
child, but didn't give my life to Jesus until my 
twenties. After I made that commitment, I could see 
how much His presence had been missed in my 
young life. How could I miss someone I barely 
knew? Yet I did. I needed Him - always had - more 
than I realized. Like the reunion with my 
long-lost bestie, this was a reunion with my Maker, 
and it was at this point when Jesus's tenderness 
poured into me like oxygen as I lay gasping. He 
brought me to abundant life. 
   Christ and I stay in touch day and night, 
through prayer, Bible study, and the countless 
blessings He shares with me. When I'm down, He lifts 
my spirits, and He builds me up when my 
strength is flagging. Sometimes, I can almost feel 
His hug, as real as any other loved one's. 
   My dream of an actual embrace from Jesus 
will come true the day He'll wrap both arms 
around me, welcoming me to heaven. For now, His 
magnificent love is enough. by Heidi Gaul 
   Faith Step: Look up someone you've fallen 
out of contact with. Get in touch via computer 
or phone. Pick up where you left off and start 
blessing each other in friendship again. [Mornings 
With Jesus 2019 Devotional by Guideposts and 


   Friends. Friendship has its risks (v. 
19), but the isolated person is not wise (v. 1). 
We belong to each other, and we need each other 
(v. 14). We may have many acquaintances, but we 
have few real friends. The person with too many 
friends may end up in trouble (v. 24 margin). Be a 
true friend and God will give you true friends 
who will stick close to you throughout life. 
   Fools. Fools do not make good friends for 
many reasons. For one thing, they like to talk so 
much that they do not hear what others say (v. 
2). Their foolish words cause fights (vv. 6-7) 
and inward pain (v. 8). Their impatience to 
speak makes them jump to conclusions (vv. 13, 17), 
and that creates problems (v. 5). The only hope 
for fools is that they will stop talking and 
start to listen to wisdom (v. 15). [Chapter by 
Chapter Bible Commentary by Warren Wiersbe re Pro. 



A real friend can be trusted (Prov. 11:13; 
17:9) and will stay with you when you are in 
trouble (Prov. 17:17; 25:19). Friends love you too 
much to pamper you (Prov. 27:6, 17), and their 
counsel helps you (Prov. 27:9). A real friend is 
good for generations (Prov. 27:10)! Some people 
do not make good friends: those who tempt you 
to sin (Prov. 1:10ff.); gluttons (Prov. 28:7); 
drunkards (Prov. 23:20-21); gossips (Prov. 20:19); the 
violent and angry (Prov. 16:29; 22:24-25); and 
flatterers (Prov. 27:14). Your best friends are those 
who have Jesus Christ as their Friend and seek 
to be like Him (John 15:12-15). [Chapter by 
Chapter Bible Commentary by Warren Wiersbe re Pro. 

In our personal relationships, how many do 
we name as "friend?"  Always the Scripture goes 
right to the heart of a matter.  There are no 
shades of gray.  A friend loves all the time.  A 
friend loves even when inconvenient; even when an 
appointment has been missed; even in the midst of a 
misunderstanding; and sometimes loves in ways that seem harsh. 
By this simple statement we are instructed that 
a friend is not just a friend in good and easy 
times.  A true friend is the one who stands with 
you "at all times...."  To be a friend takes 
stamina, interest, effort and above all, a right 
relationship to Jesus.  Because if your friend has a 
right relationship to Jesus, then your friend will 
always have God's glory and your best at heart.  
That person can never be a friend who loves you 
at all times, unless they have the love of 
Jesus within them.  As you choose to be this kind 
of friend, the world will take note. Be 
prepared to tell them of the power behind your 
friendship. [In His Time; Walk With Wisdom] 


   In order to change and get healthy, we 
all need at least one friend to whom we can tell 
the truth. A small group of friends is even 
better. These are the people with whom we go beyond, 
"I'm fine" and "Life's great." They are the ones 
we can trust to hear our struggles. These are 
the ones the proverb speaks of: "A friend loves 
at all times, and a brother is born for a time 
of adversity" (Proverbs 17:17).  
   We all struggle. God wants to meet you in 
the struggle. One of the ways he will do that is 
through a few trusted people who have demonstrated 
that they can handle the truth about you. Your 
areas of difficulty, the things you most want to 
hide from everyone else, are exactly what you 
most need to talk about with a trusted friend. 
Who is one person you can tell the truth to? 
What is the truth you need to tell? 
   Life really is better together - for a 
cord of three strands (you, a close friend, and 
God) is not easily broken. [The Daniel Plan 
365-Day Devotional re Eph. 4:25] 

   There are 365 days in a year, in the 
course of which we go through good times and bad 
times. There may be crises - big and small - and 
days when we just feel stressed out or blue. 
That's why it's essential for each of us to form an 
accountability team. We all need other people to hold us up 
when we're hurting, people who will love us 
through hard times. 
   So ... what is an accountability team? 
These are just other followers of Christ who agree 
to spend time with us. They are people who will 
be there for us and call us on our junk when we 
need a voice of reason. Those on our 
accountability team should be the same gender. We exchange 
contact information with these important people so 
we can text or talk on the phone or meet for 
coffee. When the chips are down, these are important 
relationships designed to keep us safe and tightly bonded 
to God and his people. 
   Satan would like nothing more than to 
isolate us and then begin to mess with our heads. 
It's important to have someone to call, someone 
who can deliver a word of encouragement, pray 
with us, and most of all, remind us that we are 
not alone, that there is power in numbers. 
   Heavenly Father, show me the people I 
should approach about becoming members of my 
accountability team. I look forward to growing strong in 
the midst of those important relationships. In 
Jesus' name, Amen. [Celebrate Recovery Daily 
Devotional by John & Johnny Baker] 


   A friend is someone you are comfortable 
with, someone whose company you prefer. A friend 
is someone you can count on .... 
   A friend is one who believes in 
you"someone with whom you can share your dreams. In 
fact, a real friend is a person you want to share 
all of life with"and the sharing doubles the 
   When you are hurting and you can share 
your struggles with a friend, it eases the pain. 
A friend offers you safety and trust .... 
   A friend will laugh with you, but not at 
you"a friend is fun. 
   A friend will pray with you"and for you.
   My friend is someone with whom I can 
share my ideas and philosophies, someone with whom 
I can grow intellectually.... 
   My friend is one who hears my cry of 
pain, who senses my struggle, who shares my lows 
as well as my highs. 
   My friend does not always say I am right, 
because sometimes I am not. . 
   My lover, my friend"this is what a 
marriage partner should be. "Colleen Evans [God's 
Little Devotional Bible] 






If anyone has a paraphrase, commentary or 
testimony on this passage of Scripture, either 
personal or otherwise, I would be interested in 
hearing from you.  Thanks in advance and let's keep 
uplifting Jesus that all might be drawn to Him. Fred