Philippians 2:4 - Selfishness or Selflessness and the Love of Others.

Philippians 2:4 (NIV) Each of you should 
look not only to your own interests, but also to 
the interests of others.  

Philippians 2:4 (NLT) Dont look out only 
for your own interests, but take an interest in 
others, too.  


Selfishness and self-centeredness can be 
found at the core of most interpersonal problems.  
Each one wants his or her own way; one withholds 
what should be shared; the other consumes what 
should be saved.  There is no end to the cycle of 
"I will do it my way!"  That is, until Jesus 
Christ is made Lord in your life!  When Jesus is 
Lord, self is displaced; as we continue to 
surrender, self dwindles.  The degree to which Jesus 
reigns in your heart determines your ability to 
give instead of take.  Because of Jesus, 
relationships are changed:  we become willing to share, 
and give.  How are you doing in this area?  
Examine the core of interpersonal problems in your 
life, and where necessary, change them with God's 
help.  [In His Time; Walk With Wisdom] 


   When was the last time you snapped a 
selfie? Last night? When you woke up today? Last 
   On the other hand, if I asked you, "Are 
you vain and self-absorbed?" you would probably 
say, "Of course not, Craig!' and then you'd think 
what a rude person I must be for asking. But the 
truth is that in our social-media-saturated world, 
we face more temptations than ever before to 
value ourselves too highly. From what we post as 
our status to our ubiquitous selfies, we become 
the star in our very own reality series called 
   As followers of Jesus, however, we're 
called to put others before ourselves. God tells us 
not to be so focused on our appearance and what 
we're going to wear and eat and do next. Instead 
we should look for ways we can serve those in 
need. Our culture encourages us to chase after our 
fifteen minutes of fame, but God tells us to focus 
on investing ourselves in things with eternal 
value. While it's not always easy, with Christ as 
our role model, putting others first is always 
   Today step out of your spotlight and let 
someone else be the star of the show as you serve 
   Lord, it's not always easy to quit 
thinking about myself, but I want to put others 
first. Remind me that in order to find my life I 
must lose it. [Daily Power by Craig Groeschel] 


   Years ago, to celebrate our anniversary, 
my husband gave me a gold necklace with a 
pendant: two small golden geese flying side by side. 
The geese represent eternal love. 
   Geese mate for life. If a goose becomes 
too old or sick to continue in formation with 
the rest of the flock, the mate and another 
goose will fly with the weaker one between them to 
a place with food and water. The two will wait 
and comfort the weaker one until either it is 
able to fly or it dies. Only then will the 
stronger geese join another flock, where they will be 
welcomed as newcomers. 
   Geese fly in a V formation. The goose in 
front actually creates air movement that makes 
flying easier for the birds behind. When the lead 
bird grows weary, another moves into lead 
position. The oldest and youngest geese fly at the 
back of the V and honk like a cheering section 
for those ahead. By working together as a unit, 
these birds can fly great distances that they 
could never manage alone. 
   How much we can learn about loyalty from 
geese! Proverbs 17:17 reminds us that "A friend is 
always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time 
of need." We need to seek out those friends who 
will support us when we are weak, stick with us 
no matter what, and cheer us on when we step 
out to lead. Do we exhibit that kind of loyalty 
to our spouses and those close to us? 
   When we are committed to others' 
well-being - when we value them above ourselves and put 
their interests first, as Paul instructs the 
Philippians - we are imitating Jesus and taking on His 
mind-set. He is the ultimate faithful friend. 
   May we stay faithful and committed to our 
spouses "until death do us part." May we take turns 
in a leadership position and cheer one another 
on for the long journey ahead. And may we 
always welcome newcomers and the lost. 
   Lord God, YOU are the only One who is 
fully faithful. I am grateful that You will stick 
by me no matter what. Thank You for the people 
in my life who show that same kind of loyalty 
to me. Please help me to extend it to others 
too, whether it's my spouse, other family 
members, friends, or those around me. I want to be a 
reflection of You. [Earth Psalms by Francine Rivers] 


   New York Yankees pitcher Mariano Rivera 
made his career getting the hardest three outs in 
baseball - the last three. Rivera set more than 
twenty-five pitching records, including becoming the 
all-time saves leader. A pitcher earns a save by 
clinching a victory after throwing at least one inning 
with his team ahead by no more than three runs. 
In other words, every time Rivera stepped on 
the mound, it was a pressure-packed situation. 
   Rivera notched his record 602nd save on 
September 19, 2011, against the Minnesota Twins. After 
the game, instead of bragging about his 
accomplishment, Rivera did what he'd always done - focused 
on his teammates and God. 
   "The whole organization, my whole 
teammates have been a pillar for me," Rivers told a 
Fox News reporter. "I always have to talk about 
God, because that's the most important thing in 
my life. Yes, there have been bumps in the 
road, but God gave me the strength." 
   Only twenty-one pitchers in the history 
of baseball have tallied half the number of 
saves that Rivera has earned. When asked during an 
ESPN radio interview if being called the greatest 
closer embarrassed him, Mariano answered: "Yea, it 
does. It does make me uncomfortable because I 
don't like to talk about myself. I just want to be 
able to contribute as much as I can for the team. 
And the rest is just blessings from the Lord." 
   Mariano Rivera's talent and humility made 
him one of the most beloved baseball players of 
all time. Even his opponents respected him. He 
played the game like he lived his life, according 
to Philippians 2:3-4: "In humility value others 
above yourselves, not looking to your own 
interests but each of you to the interests of the 
   Jesus lived out those words, but to an 
even greater degree. Nobody had more to brag 
about than Jesus Christ. But you never heard him 
say, "Hey, check me out. I'm God's Son. I can 
walk on water." Instead of demanding to be served 
on earth, he made himself a servant and humbled 
himself on the cross to die for our sins. 
   Sometimes we might be tempted to brag if 
we ace a test, nail a game-winning shot, or get 
the lead in a play. At those times, remember 
Jesus' example and act humbly. [Case For Christ For 
Kids by Les Strobel] 


Selflessness and Relationships
   Selflessness brings out the best in 
others. It builds relationships. What does it mean 
to be selfless? It means you think a little 
less of yourself and a little more of others.  
   The opposite of selflessness is 
selfishness. Its the number one cause of conflict and 
arguments. The Bible says, What causes fights and 
quarrels among you? Don't they come from your desires 
that battle within you? You want something but 
don't get it (James 4:1-2 NIV).  
   Self-centeredness destroys relationships.
   One night I got into bed three seconds 
before Kay did. When she got into bed, she asked if 
I locked all the doors. But in those three 
seconds, I pretended to be almost asleep and 
whispered, No. She then got up and locked all the 
doors. Theres a word for what I did"selfish, 
pure, and simple.  
   The problem is, being selfish is human 
nature. We naturally think about our interests, our 
hurts, how we look, and how we feel. Even culture 
tells us: Do what you think is best for you. 
But the Bible says, Look out for one 
anothers interests, not just for your own. 
(Philippians 2:4 GNT). 
   What happens when you look out for one 
anothers interests, not just for your own? Not 
only will it transform your relationships - it 
will transform people. It causes the other person 
to change because youre not the same person 
anymore, allowing them to relate to you in a 
different way.  
   Ive seen it many times: When you treat 
cranky, unlikable people with kindness, instead of 
treating them the way they deserve, they transform 
into nice people. 
   The greatest lesson in life is learning 
to be unselfish - but it wont happen 
overnight. Its going to take the rest of your life. 
   The good news is, God doesnt leave you 
all alone to learn how to be selfless. Romans 
8:26 says, The Holy Spirit helps us in our 
weakness (NLT). 
   Never stop making the effort to be more 
selfless. Gods Spirit is with you to help you break 
the cycle of selfishness! And its then will 
you see transformation in all your 
relationships. [Daily Devotional by Rick Warren: 

Selflessness and Giving in Relationships
   God wants you to learn that you can give 
without loving but you cannot love without giving. 
   You say, I really love my kids! Do 
you give them your time? I really love my 
wife. Do you give her your attention? This is what 
love is all about. You become more loving when 
you become more generous. 
   Every time youre generous, a change 
takes place in you. Every time you give, your 
heart moves another tweak up the dial toward God. 
You become more loving every time you give. You 
become more like Jesus. 
   Philippians 1:11 says, May you always 
be filled with the fruit of your salvation - 
the righteous character produced in your life by 
Jesus Christ - for this will bring much glory and 
praise to God (NLT). 
   What were talking about here is 
extremely countercultural, because our society does 
not tell you to give. Our culture is constantly 
telling us to get. Its all about me. Me, my 
stuff, my needs - me, me, me. We have a me 
   When youre generous, it gets the focus 
off you so that you can stop thinking about 
yourself and start thinking about others. Philippians 
2:4-5 says, Dont look out only for your own 
interests, but take an interest in others, too. You 
must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus 
had (NLT). [Daily Devotional by Rick Warren: 

Selflessness and Being Understood in 
   When youre in conflict, the loving and 
Christlike way to defuse the tension is to seek to 
understand before seeking to be understood. Try to 
figure out what the other person is thinking and 
saying before you start trying to convince them 
convince them of your side. You cannot hope to be 
understood until you are willing to do the same for 
   The Bible says, A person who answers 
without listening is foolish and disgraceful 
(Proverbs 18:13 ICB). 
   We are often so busy trying to get people 
to see it our way that we dont stop to 
listen to what they are saying. 
   Thats why you need to say, You go 
first. And then, after theyve shared, you say, 
Now, let me see if I understand. Youre saying 
(repeat to them what you understood they were 
communicating to you). Did I get this right? That gives 
them a chance to correct and not just be 
understood but also feel understood. 
   Seeking to understand first also allows 
you to see the other persons perspective. 
Philippians 2:4-5 says, Dont look out only for 
your own interests, but take an interest in 
others, too. You must have the same attitude that 
Christ Jesus had (NLT). 
   Were in the thick of a pandemic filled 
with a lot of heated discussion around the best 
way to move forward. Everyone has their own 
perspective, but it seems like no one is willing see 
anyone elses perspective. All we can see is our 
own side of things. 
   If youre not willing to seek to 
understand and acknowledge other perspectives, youre 
not going to be able to see the hurt of other 
people. You wont see their fear, their pain, or 
the injustice theyve faced. 
   That is not the way of Jesus Christ. He 
was always looking beyond himself to the needs 
of others. Even on the cross, he was thinking 
of you. 
   Its not easy to think of others before 
yourself. It certainly isnt natural. You are, by 
nature, a self-centered person. So am I! Left to my 
own devices, I will always choose to look out 
for myself before I look out for others. 
   Only Jesus can change my perspective - 
and yours. Only Jesus can make you more 
interested in someone elses interests than in your 
own. When you take on the character of Christ, 
the desire to understand before being understood 
becomes more natural. Only then can you work through 
conflict as you think of others before yourself. 
[Daily Devotional by Rick Warren: 

Selflessness and Arguing
   When you meet someone to resolve a 
conflict, you first have to confess your part of the 
problem. Then, you need to listen for the other 
persons hurt and perspective. 
   We think we argue over ideas. But we 
actually argue over emotion. Anytime theres a 
conflict, someones feelings were hurt. Somebody 
felt abused. Somebody felt slighted. Its not 
the idea that causes the conflict. Its the 
emotion behind the idea. 
   Hurt people hurt people. The more people 
are hurting, the more they lash out at everybody 
else. People who arent hurting dont hurt 
others. People who are filled with love are loving 
toward others. People who are filled with joy are 
joyful to others. People who are filled with peace 
are at peace with everybody else. But people who 
are hurting inside are going to hurt others. 
Theyre going to lash out. 
   If you want to connect with people, you 
must start with their needs, their hurts, and 
their interests. If you want to be a good 
salesperson, you dont start with your product. You 
start with your customers need, hurts, and 
interests. If you want to be a good professor or pastor 
or anything else, you start with peoples 
needs, hurts, and interests. 
   Philippians 2:4-5 says, Dont look 
out only for your own interests, but take an 
interest in others, too. You must have the same 
attitude that Christ Jesus had (NLT). 
   Are you often so busy trying to get the 
people youre in conflict with to see your 
position that youre not listening to theirs? 
Youre too busy speaking and not listening, so you 
move further and further away. 
   You need to intentionally switch your 
focus from your needs to their needs. Conflict 
resolution starts with the way you look at the 
situation. The word look in Philippians 2:4 is 
the Greek word scopos. Its where we get our 
words microscope and telescope. 
   Scopos means to focus. The next verse 
says your attitude should be the same as that of 
Jesus Christ. You are most like Jesus when 
youre focusing on the hurts of somebody else 
rather than your own. 
   Theres an old Proverb that says, 
Seek to understand before seeking to be 
understood. When youre focused on the other 
persons needs and not your own, youll be able to 
get a better understanding of the situation and 
move forward with resolving your conflict. [Daily 
Devotional by Rick Warren: 


   I love the story of a sea captain who, 
while navigating his ship through a storm, found 
himself on a collision course with what he thought 
was a large vessel in the distance. He ordered 
the approaching vessel to alter its course ten 
degrees south. The reply came back: "Alter your 
course ten degrees north." Incensed, the captain 
shot back, "Alter your course ten degrees south. 
This is the Captain! I am a battleship!" The 
reply came back: "Alter your course ten degrees 
north. This is ensign third class. I am a 
   It's the attitude that is most important. 
We can choose to preach ourselves and pull rank 
and risk a shipwreck of all our relationships. 
Or we can choose to avoid disaster, realize 
there are some things we simply do not know, and 
humbly alter our course. 
   Perhaps the finest model of humility, 
other than Christ Himself, was that young Jew from 
Tarsus who was radically transformed from a 
strong-willed Pharisee named Saul to a bond servant of 
Jesus Christ called Paul. 
   It's possible you have the notion that 
the apostle Paul rammed his way through life 
like a fully loaded battleship at sea. Blasting 
and pounding toward objectives, he was just too 
important to worry about those who got in his way. 
Frankly, when he was Saul that pretty much summed up 
his approach. So, what happened? He met the 
Savior"and that changed everything . . . especially his 
attitude toward others. 
   Take a moment to reflect on Paul's advice:
   Be humble, thinking of others as better 
than yourselves. Don't look out only for your own 
interests, but take an interest in others, too. 
Philippians 2:3-4 
   That's more like it!
   Do you know that your attitude today 
could very well determine if someone around you 
resists God's invitation to bow before Him in 
repentance? Maybe it's time to stand down and defer 
rather than stand up tall and pull rank. Perhaps 
this would be a good opportunity for you to 
reconsider your approach to the situation you face 
today. Before you make another move or say another 
word, bow before the Lord in prayer. 
   Ask Him to make you more like Paul than 
Saul. [Chuck Swindoll www.insight.org.] 


1 Corinthians 10:24 - For The Good Of Others 
And The Glory Of God. 


Mark 12:29-31 - Love for God and Mankind; 
Spirit and Summary of The Ten Commandments. 



If anyone has a paraphrase, commentary or 
testimony on this passage of Scripture, either 
personal or otherwise, I would be interested in 
hearing from you.  Thanks in advance and let's keep 
uplifting Jesus that all might be drawn to Him. Fred 


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