James 1:19 - Are You Listening?
James 1:19 (NIV) My dear brothers and
sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick
to listen, slow to speak and slow to become
James 1:19 (NLT) Understand this, my dear
brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to
listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.
James 1:19 (MSG) Post this at all the
intersections, dear friends: Lead with your ears, follow up
with your tongue, and let anger straggle along in
Paying Attention Fans the Flame of Romance
Good marriages dont just happen.
Marriages are what you make them. If you put in the
effort, you can learn the skills and wisdom to build
a great relationship, regardless of what your
marriage has been like up until now.
During the next few days, were going
to look at some practical ways you and your
spouse can grow closer to each other and closer to
God. Many of these principles can also be applied
to any close relationship, at any stage of your
One skill that anyone can learn to help
make their relationships better - whether in
marriage or in friendship - is how to pay attention.
When you give someone your attention and
focus, its like you give them a piece of your
Your time is your life because youll
never get it back. Thats why the most loving
act you can show your spouse is to pay attention
to them. Those focused moments of intimate
sharing are one of the most important ways you say,
I love you.
The truth is, you fell in love by paying
attention. You started paying attention to someone, and
that person started paying attention to you. You
bought flowers, wrote notes, and talked for hours
on the phone. You spent your free time
But gradually your attention shifted.
Today you may be more focused on paying the bills,
taking care of kids, pursuing hobbies, or building
your career. Your spouse isnt the center of
your attention anymore. A shift of focus happens
naturally, but if you dont bring your attention back
to each other, your marriage will eventually
One of the ways you let your attention
fade in marriage is when you stop listening to
each other. Pride makes you assume you know what
your spouse has said - because you think youve
heard them say it over and over again through the
If youve stopped listening to your
spouse, start listening again today. Why? First, you
love the person. And when you give your attention
by listening, youre showing love. Next,
sometimes God speaks through your spouse. In fact,
next to the Bible, its Gods favorite way to
speak to you.
God gives a great recipe in his Word for
the kind of focused attention through listening
that makes a marriage grow. James 1:19 says,
Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to
become angry (NIV). When you do the first two
parts of that verse, the third one will be
automatic. As you do this, youll keep your marriage
growing and going.
To fan the flames of romance in your
marriage, start bringing back some of that focused
attention. Show you care by staying aware. As you pay
attention to each other, youll find yourselves
growing closer even as you raise a family, pursue
careers, and eventually grow old together. [Daily
Devotional by Rick Warren:
A Closed Mouth Gathers No Foot
To everything there is a season a time
to keep silence, and a time to speak.
I can think of so many times when I
should have kept silent but just had to speak. Have
you ever done that? Have you ever said
something, and the moment it left your lips, you
thought, Why did I just say that? But you said it.
The Bible says, "My dear brothers and
sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to
speak, and slow to get angry" (James 1:19, NLT).
How much better it would be for us if we would
pause for a moment before we speak, asking
ourselves, Is this the right thing to say? Would this
be an appropriate statement to make? Lord,
would this glorify You?
Peter was very outspoken, which is why I
like him so much. One of my favorite stories
about him was when he was on the Mount of
Transfiguration with Jesus, James, and John. Jesus told His
three disciples to stay awake with Him. Yet Peter
and the boys fell asleep. When they woke up,
Jesus was shining like the sun and talking with
Moses and Elijah.
So Peter stood up and said, "It is good
for us to be here" (Mark 9:5). I like the
commentary Mark's gospel adds: "He said this because he
didn't really know what else to say" (verse 6,
NLT). But he said it anyway!
Have you ever been in a situation like
that, when you wanted to say the perfect thing,
yet you ended up saying the lamest thing
An old proverb advises, "Better to be
silent and be thought a fool than to open your
mouth and dispel all doubt." Or, as another
proverb says, "A closed mouth gathers no foot."
There is a time to speak. And there is a
time to be quiet. We need the wisdom of the Holy
Spirit in our lives to know which is which. [Every
Day with Jesus by Greg Laurie]
LINK FOR FURTHER STUDY ON THIS PASSAGE
James 1:19 - Are You Listening?
If anyone has a paraphrase, commentary or
testimony on this passage of Scripture, either
personal or otherwise, I would be interested in
hearing from you. Thanks in advance and let's keep
uplifting Jesus that all might be drawn to Him. Fred
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Medical Seminar on Healthful Living by David
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